17 Things I learned at 17

Hello everyone, it’s been awhile since my last post, I went on vacation last week and I’ve also been getting ready for college, I finally move in this weekend. It seems like everything is happening so fast, I’m excited but also nervous. Anyways, today is my 18th birthday and I decided to do a post that would make me reflect on my year of being seventeen. Most of these are very personal and I decided to write this for me in my journal, however I thought it would be nice to share with you all, everything I learned this past year.

I learned that/to….. 

  1. My mental health comes first. I think that during my senior year is when I finally realized that my mental health is valid. I had such a difficult year mentally and I realized that my mental health is just as important as my physical health.
  2. If I have the opportunity to fix something, then I should do it as soon as possible. I learned this the hard way, but there were so many times when I could change something, but all I did was fear “what if’s” my mind and wasted time.
  3. Challenge my avoidance. My anxiety has been the worse it’s ever been this past year, from the start of senior year until as recently as a few weeks ago. There were so many, many events that I unfortunately avoided, because I was so afraid and because of that, I will never have memories of those events in my life.
  4. To deal through uncomfortable situations. Of course no one wants to feel uncomfortable, however the feeling is impossible to flee. I had lots of practice, sitting with those uncomfortable feelings, giving myself that exposure. I’ve also learned ways to cope with it and make it better.
  5. Take chances on first-time opportunities. On a more positive note, there were few very memorable occasions I took apart of. My fear almost got the best of me, but I took those chances and did not regret one of them.
  6. Get out of the house and do something for yourself. During the winter months, I felt so alone and isolated, I stayed home pretty much everyday secluded from everything, except my appointments. Maybe what I really needed was just some time outside of the house even if I was just solo.
  7. The library is a sacred and underrated place. This ones a little different, but this was the one place I always felt safe whether it be at school or my public library. During the school year, whenever I didn’t have classes, I would go to the library and sit in the back, next to window and daze off sometimes, looking into the gloomy sky. I felt okay there, and sometimes if you just need sometime to be by yourself, the library is the right spot, to tune everything out.
  8. Gratitude practices make a difference. This year I was challenged with practicing gratitude by my therapist. At first I thought to myself, “this is useless”, however it was far from the truth. The more I began to practice this skill, the more I realized how much more appreciative it made me of everything. (I highly recommend everyone trying some different gratitude practices).
  9. It’s okay to just sit and cry. I accepted that sometimes crying is needed, everything feels better once you cry. Crying is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength.
  10. Living outside of your comfort zone is probably one of the best things. I unfortunately probably was in a cave most of the time (metaphorically speaking), but those very limited times when I got out of my shell, were the absolute best. Hopefully that’s a goal that I stride for more when I’m 18.
  11. Challenging yourself is a great way for you to grow as a person. Any challenge that you give to yourself, will shape you into the person you are looking to become. Set the bar up high and challenge yourself.
  12. If people are there for you, then open up to them. There were a few people in my life, that were there for me when I needed them, and I just couldn’t express what I was feeling or going through, but if I could go back and change that I most definitely would.
  13. Write, Write, & Write. Release your endless emotions: write them down, journal, blog, or just type them in your phone. Creating my blog was one of the best things I’ve ever done and it gave me this outlet to express everything I am passionate about and to have the freedom to write about anything on my mind.
  14. If you feel that your struggling mentally, seek a therapist or talk to a counselor/social worker. I finally started seeing a therapist a little bit after I turned 17. As well as, last year at school, I finally reached out to my school social worker, and I realized that it’s okay to just go and see them. Sometimes you need a break from your class and need to talk to someone who understands what you may be feeling. Thankfully I had an amazing guidance counselor and social worker at my school, that I was able to see throughout the day.
  15. My mom is always there for me. Yes, my mom was probably always there for me, but this last year was unlike any other year. After all that I went through, I had to say that everything impacted her in various ways. Most of all, she helped me finish school when I lost motivation and continued to help me with any of my needs.
  16. Sometimes it’s the most simplest things that feed the soul. It may be just hearing the waves clash on the shore, or that bite into your favorite meal, or maybe feeling the warmth of the sun against your skin. Be mindful during these sensations and remember them.
  17. I’m still finding who I am and want to become. I saved this one for last because this is something I constantly think about. I’m often confused about life, and although life is a journey about self-discovery, I know that through time I will find myself and know who I am.

Thank you all for reading, I hope you enjoyed this very sentimental post.  If you enjoyed this post then do not forget to like it and please subscribe with your email in the sidebar, to be notified of new posts through your email, (be sure to confirm subscription in email). Also make sure to follow me on my social media pages down below, I will follow back all other fellow bloggers!

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Chit-Chat with Me. /// July 2018

Hi everyone, it’s been a long time since I’ve wrote a blog post and I’m very sorry that I’ve been MIA for over a month, so much has changed the past month. Unfortunately, a couple weeks ago I resigned from my job due to many personal reasons, and it was a bit tough at first, however I’ve dealt with it and moved on.

Also to be quite honest, I lost a lot of motivation to write on my blog the past few weeks, it felt forced and I do not want to put out content if it’s not my best work. More recently, after having some time to reflect my life, I realized how much I missed blogging and how essential it is for me to blog. This is a creative outlet for me, and when I blog, I feel empowered that I am able to share my thoughts/info into the world. Therefore, I will be back to blogging for sure once a week, hopefully twice the next couple of weeks before I start college. I begin college in late August however I move in mid-August. Another few updates with you all is that I will be going on vacation to San Francisco in a couple of weeks, which is very exciting for me, since it’s my favorite city (outside of Chicago of course!). Lastly, before I finish this post, I just wanted to give you all the run-down of some of the next few posts I plan to write next (in no specific order):

  • Favorite Makeup Brushes
  • A Traveling Post
  • Spotify Playlist
  • Highschool Tips/Tricks
  • A Food Truck review

Thank you for everyone who read this post, hopefully you all stay tuned for some of my upcoming posts. Also if you would like to see a specific post on my blog, comment down below your requests! If you enjoyed this post then do not forget to like it and please subscribe with your email in the sidebar, to be notified of new posts through your email, (be sure to confirm subscription in email). Also make sure to follow me on my social media pages down below, I will follow back all other fellow bloggers!

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Unpopular Opinions/// Just for fun

Hello everyone, I am back with another post on my blog today. This is just a random/fun post just to kick off the week. I have been noticing the trend with these unpopular opinions posts/videos and I thought why not try this. Also do not get offended, like I said this is just for fun and these are just my opinions, anyways I hope you guys enjoy and comment down below if you agree with any of these!

  1. ASMR is super cringey and not at all soothing, I can’t stand it.
  2. Mayo is a must on sandwiches/burgers, or else it would be so dry and yucky, and the mayo just tops a sandwich.
  3. Nutella is gross af, never liked it.
  4. Bhad Barbie songs are actually somewhat good, they’re super catchy, however I still don’t like her as a person.
  5. 13 Reasons Why isn’t a terrible show, however I do not agree with how they portray everything throughout the series, there are definitely many areas that need improvement on mental health awareness.
  6. The ACE family is incredibly overrated, I do not understand why everyone is obsessed with them.
  7. Sushi is not the best food ever, it’s cold and very bland. Have you ever heard of tacos or pizza?
  8. Thin mints are not the best kind of Girl Scout cookies, there too basic, therefore it’s tagalongs that take the crown.
  9. Ulta is way better than Sephora. They have a larger selection, cheaper, and more of a variety for cruelty free products.
  10. Why the heck does everyone have a juul, it’s disgusting and pointless. (Not hating if you do that just don’t understand why everyone is obsessed with them.)
  11. In and Out is honestly the most overrated fast food place there is, their burgers not even really good and the fries are mediocre. Portillos is a million times better, Chicago does food right.
  12. Glossy lips>>> colored lips . I am obsessed with the way they look, compared to liquid or regular lipstick.
  13. Leonardo DiCaprio is not that good looking honestly. Don’t get me wrong he’s an amazing actor and good person in real life, but not attractive.
  14. The yodeling boy was not at all funny or amusing, I don’t know why he became so famous.
  15. Lastly, ice tea is just a big no. There’s no flavor and it’s just no. Water is better than that.

Hope you all enjoyed this short post. Comment down below if you agree with anyone of these, and if you don’t then well comment if you want haha. Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post, it will be a creative post on smashbooking my Seattle trip! See you all tomorrow bye! P.S. if you aren’t following me on instagram @girl.who.blogs then where are you at, I’m slowly transitioning into a new theme!

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