17 Things I learned at 17

Hello everyone, it’s been awhile since my last post, I went on vacation last week and I’ve also been getting ready for college, I finally move in this weekend. It seems like everything is happening so fast, I’m excited but also nervous. Anyways, today is my 18th birthday and I decided to do a post that would make me reflect on my year of being seventeen. Most of these are very personal and I decided to write this for me in my journal, however I thought it would be nice to share with you all, everything I learned this past year.

I learned that/to….. 

  1. My mental health comes first. I think that during my senior year is when I finally realized that my mental health is valid. I had such a difficult year mentally and I realized that my mental health is just as important as my physical health.
  2. If I have the opportunity to fix something, then I should do it as soon as possible. I learned this the hard way, but there were so many times when I could change something, but all I did was fear “what if’s” my mind and wasted time.
  3. Challenge my avoidance. My anxiety has been the worse it’s ever been this past year, from the start of senior year until as recently as a few weeks ago. There were so many, many events that I unfortunately avoided, because I was so afraid and because of that, I will never have memories of those events in my life.
  4. To deal through uncomfortable situations. Of course no one wants to feel uncomfortable, however the feeling is impossible to flee. I had lots of practice, sitting with those uncomfortable feelings, giving myself that exposure. I’ve also learned ways to cope with it and make it better.
  5. Take chances on first-time opportunities. On a more positive note, there were few very memorable occasions I took apart of. My fear almost got the best of me, but I took those chances and did not regret one of them.
  6. Get out of the house and do something for yourself. During the winter months, I felt so alone and isolated, I stayed home pretty much everyday secluded from everything, except my appointments. Maybe what I really needed was just some time outside of the house even if I was just solo.
  7. The library is a sacred and underrated place. This ones a little different, but this was the one place I always felt safe whether it be at school or my public library. During the school year, whenever I didn’t have classes, I would go to the library and sit in the back, next to window and daze off sometimes, looking into the gloomy sky. I felt okay there, and sometimes if you just need sometime to be by yourself, the library is the right spot, to tune everything out.
  8. Gratitude practices make a difference. This year I was challenged with practicing gratitude by my therapist. At first I thought to myself, “this is useless”, however it was far from the truth. The more I began to practice this skill, the more I realized how much more appreciative it made me of everything. (I highly recommend everyone trying some different gratitude practices).
  9. It’s okay to just sit and cry. I accepted that sometimes crying is needed, everything feels better once you cry. Crying is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength.
  10. Living outside of your comfort zone is probably one of the best things. I unfortunately probably was in a cave most of the time (metaphorically speaking), but those very limited times when I got out of my shell, were the absolute best. Hopefully that’s a goal that I stride for more when I’m 18.
  11. Challenging yourself is a great way for you to grow as a person. Any challenge that you give to yourself, will shape you into the person you are looking to become. Set the bar up high and challenge yourself.
  12. If people are there for you, then open up to them. There were a few people in my life, that were there for me when I needed them, and I just couldn’t express what I was feeling or going through, but if I could go back and change that I most definitely would.
  13. Write, Write, & Write. Release your endless emotions: write them down, journal, blog, or just type them in your phone. Creating my blog was one of the best things I’ve ever done and it gave me this outlet to express everything I am passionate about and to have the freedom to write about anything on my mind.
  14. If you feel that your struggling mentally, seek a therapist or talk to a counselor/social worker. I finally started seeing a therapist a little bit after I turned 17. As well as, last year at school, I finally reached out to my school social worker, and I realized that it’s okay to just go and see them. Sometimes you need a break from your class and need to talk to someone who understands what you may be feeling. Thankfully I had an amazing guidance counselor and social worker at my school, that I was able to see throughout the day.
  15. My mom is always there for me. Yes, my mom was probably always there for me, but this last year was unlike any other year. After all that I went through, I had to say that everything impacted her in various ways. Most of all, she helped me finish school when I lost motivation and continued to help me with any of my needs.
  16. Sometimes it’s the most simplest things that feed the soul. It may be just hearing the waves clash on the shore, or that bite into your favorite meal, or maybe feeling the warmth of the sun against your skin. Be mindful during these sensations and remember them.
  17. I’m still finding who I am and want to become. I saved this one for last because this is something I constantly think about. I’m often confused about life, and although life is a journey about self-discovery, I know that through time I will find myself and know who I am.

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Art Journal with me: Collaging

Hello everyone, I hope your Monday is going well! I thought I would kick off the week, with something a little different and throw some creativity at you all! For today’s post I will be art journaling: Collaging edition. For the many of you who do not know, I am very creative if I do say so myself, and one of my absolute favorite art activities to do is, collaging. I got into collaging a few months ago and it is something that I never get sick of because there is always new inspiration out there. Collaging is amazing because you can use different types of media to create a collage, making it personal and unique to you. Throughout this post, I will be sharing some of my tips on how to start collaging and my collaging process for today’s collage.

  • Get Inspired//Find Inspiration:

Inspiration is everywhere around you, whether it’s in nature, on the internet, or in a physical item. In my personal opinion the best place to get inspiration from is either magazines or on pinterest. There is so much out there that will inspire you or call your attention. I love when I flip through a magazine and it’s almost like something is speaking to me on the page, so whether it is an image or words, I cut it out to use in a collage of mine.  

  • Finding a theme:

Okay so this one is not an essential, however I find that when establishing a theme for the collage, it will help you be on the lookout for images/words that correspond to your theme when looking for ideas. A theme could be a mood board, aesthetics, a color, or feelings. Do not discouraged if you cannot find a theme, because sometimes they will form later on or sometimes it is just what you find exhilarating.  

  • Using what you have:

The best thing about collages is that you do not have to go out and buy materials, you can easily use any of the supplies you have at home. Look through old magazines, if you have paint then add paint to your collage, if you have a printer then find images on the internet, go outside to get flowers and leaves, use buttons, tissue paper, or whatever materials your heart desires. Be imaginative and mix your supplies together to create your collage.

Things you will need:

  • An art Journal or paper
  • Scissors
  • A glue stick or mod podge
  • Inspiration & any kind of materials you want for your collage

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Okay so now onto my collaging process. I went to an art journaling class the other night and I was inspired to create a collage that had a blue color scheme, it went really well with the page in my journal and I thought why not try it. At home I gathered images and background colors through magazines, cutting them out, I also used different shades of blue tissue paper to layer my pictures on.

I gathered some magazines I got earlier this year to flip through, my scissors and my glue stick. Look for images that speak to you or call your attention and then cut away!

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Once you have a good amount of images to choose from, start forming how you want your collage to look.

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Start gluing random pieces on top of each other, for an overlapping messy look.

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If you notice any gaps or empty white spaces that are not covered, then simply get coloring materials (in this case I used pens and colored pencils, to color in the white spaces or you can choose to leave them, the choice is yours. IMG-1320

Once you are done, you will have your masterpiece. Collaging is just this great way to be inspired and to express yourself. I find it ultimately relaxing and a creative source for inspo. So the next time you are feeling artistic, gather some supplies and your journal, play some winter acoustic tunes on spotify, and let your mind take you to another place.

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Final piece.

Let me know if you collage or plan on creating one to express yourself, I’d love to see it! If you found creative inspiration then please like this post! I will be posting a TMI tag earlier tomorrow, so keep an eye out for that. If you enjoyed this post then please subscribe with your email in the sidebar, to be notified of new posts through your email, (be sure to confirm subscription in email) also make sure to follow me on my social media pages, down below!

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Good Deed Journal for 2018

A guide to a positive year through a Good deed Journal for a month. 

  1. Smile at everyone for a whole day, even if they’re strangers. A smile to someone might help brighten their day and also yours.
  2. Give a stranger a compliment. Make someone’s day with a flattering remark.   
  3. Pay for the person behind you. A simple deed that includes purchasing a meal or drink for a random person will give them a pleasant surprise.
  4. Leave a kind note on someone’s car, locker, or desk. You never know what kind of day the person may be having.
  5. Donate to the homeless. Whether you donate food, clothes, or money, just donate. It’s very important to be thankful for all the things you have in your life but also to give to those who don’t have the same as you do.
  6. Thank someone who means alot to you. Appreciation goes a long way and that person may just need to feel like that their existence is appreciated.
  7. Think positively all day; you’ll notice how those thoughts reflect on your mood and others in a favorable manner.
  8. Volunteer to help those in need. Pick a place and set a goal to give your time and assistance to them. It can be at a homeless shelter, dog shelter, or retirement home, for example.
  9. Write a note or letter to someone – it – can be someone you know or a complete stranger – and leave it somewhere public where they are most likely to see it. For example, leave it on a car, inside a book, or on a desk.
  10. Speak to someone you haven’t talked to in a while. Ask them how they’ve been and tell them how much you miss them; you may just rekindle your friendship with them again.
  11. Help someone out with something. If you see anyone struggling with anything then give them a hand, for example: placing heavy items into their car from the store.
  12. Share the thing you love most with the people around you. They can be people you don’t talk to or friends and family members.
  13. Surprise a loved one with a favorite thing of theirs. This can unexpectedly make his or her day feel special.
  14. Give someone a kind, motivational message that is heartfelt. People sometimes just need to be reminded that there is always hope.
  15. Support someone who you think is in need of some help. Ask them what you can do to make things better.
  16. Hold the door open for someone even if you’re in a rush or have your hands full. The person will be thankful.
  17. Believe in something; it can be believing in your God, in ambition, or in something great.
  18. Appreciate everything that by showing gratitude to all that you’re thankful for.
  19. Have faith in whatever it is that’s worrying you. Everything will be okay and turn out just fine.
  20. Trust your friends, family members, coaches, teachers, spouse, etc. Just trust that they will support, believe, and be honest with you.
  21. Empathize with those that are struggling and feel overwhelmed. Let them know that what they are dealing with is just temporary.
  22. Love someone and let them know that they are loved and worthy.
  23. Seek the things in life that make you feel joyful for being here. Everything around you will radiate positive vibes in your life.
  24. Do the spectacular greatness that you were destined to do. Go find it and achieve your capabilities.
  25. Dream beyond the limits; everyone has the potential to succeed and achieve their dreams. Keep working hard and believing in what you do.
  26. Enlighten someone by giving them an understanding of what their life should consist of for a happy lifestyle.
  27. Open up to someone on all that your mind is filled with. Have them do the same with you and you both will notice how amazing it feels to let go.
  28. Respect all types of people. This may seem like something that should be done everyday but the truth is that it’s not and people sometimes forget that everyone’s human.
  29. Change the things you want to change. You deserve to be heard and sometimes we just need to remind ourselves that we have the power to change the things
  30. Hope for greatness in this world. Although there are hard times in life, there is and always will be hope to hold on to.
  31. Be the best version of yourself. Reach all that you can. Believe in what you truly think. Love what you do. And hope for the change you’re looking for in life.

much love, Ariana.